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How to meet a man you won't have to drag to church.

singlesKristen Chandler

In the tongue in cheek song, God Made Girls, Raelynn sings that one reason God made us is to drag (our man's) butt to church. That's cute and funny in a country song, but in real life, it kinda sucks.

If faith is an important component of your next relationship, online dating and mobile apps might not be the best tool for finding your match. When creating an online dating profile, we define our faith by selecting from a list of denominations such as Catholic, Lutheran, Baptist, Latter-day Saints, Jewish, etc.--you get the idea. So we choose the short answer we most identify with, and our viewers are left to fill in some very large blanks. 

I played tennis a good part of my life, but since tearing my ACL five years ago, I haven’t stepped foot on a court. Yet, in my mind, I’m still a tennis player. But if I say I like tennis on my profile, a man looking for his next mixed doubles partner will be very disappointed to learn that tennis is no longer part of my everyday life. The same can be said for faith. I don’t think people are intentionally misleading about their faith, it’s just another flaw in the algorithm of online dating that uses limited information to match two people together in hopes of producing chemistry. 

When I started online dating, I wanted to find someone with whom I'd have chemistry and who shared my faith, so I only responded to emails from men who described themselves as I did--Christian Other. I assumed... (I know...assuming makes an A-S-S out of U and ME!) ...that a man who was Christian Other was most likely non-denominational having similar beliefs and practices to mine, and if we started dating, he’d go to church with me. That happened NEVER!

My parents have been married 57 years. As singles, they both worked at U.S. Steel in the accounting department and they'd see each other daily—not at work, but at church, where they both went on their way to the office every morning. Their shared faith or spiritual chemistry is part of what initially attracted them to each other, and it's what has held them together through all the calm and storms of life.

I don't know anyone who goes to church every day, and I only know a handful of people at my own church. This day and age of large and mega churches can create a sort of anonymity in itself and makes it difficult to meet others outside of our circle. Last Sunday, I looked around my church and saw several men and women whom I know to be single. I realized Flirt!Ring can be a helpful tool in bringing singles of faith together. The whole idea behind Flirt!Ring is to help singles meet in real life, so why not on Sunday mornings?! 

I’m not saying we should approach church as a singles scene or turn “peace be with yous” into pick up lines, but how cool would it be to have a chance encounter at the coffee cart? If you’re praying to meet a man you have chemistry with and connect with spiritually, don’t place your faith in online dating. Wear a Flirt!Ring to church and give like-minded single men a little faith to say hello. The bonus is you'll know exactly what he looks like and you won't have to drag his butt to church!

Top 6 Ways to Avoid Valentine's Day

Kristen Chandler

I don't know about you, but I start dreading February 14th on January 2nd, because that's when Target puts up the Valentine's Day displays. It's really "heartless" considering many of us have yet to recover from kissing a total stranger on New Year's Eve...or kissing no one at all. Not sure which is worse. I take that back, I've done both and a kiss-less NYE is definitely worse.

By February 1, your fate is sealed-- if you're not already seeing someone, rest assured you won't be on February 14 either. It's too awkward to start dating someone that close to Valentine's Day.  So, it's time to consider plan B--avoiding it altogether. Here are some suggestions:

(1) LEAVE TOWN | Book a trip with a girlfriend to a country that's never heard of Valentine's Day. No one will judge you there!

(2) GIRLS' NITE | They say misery loves company, but with my girlfriends, misery isn't miserable at all! Champagne, chocolate and girl talk with my besties is FAR BETTER than most of the Valentine's dates I've had. If you're in San Diego, I highly recommend our Single Ladies' Party Bus. It's like girls' nite on steroids. Nothing embraces the day like 50 single women on a PARTY BUS stocked with champagne, chocolate and free jewelry! 

(3) KID PARTY | If you're a single mom, you can always throw a kid party. There is nothing shameful about hiding behind your children, decorating cupcakes and playing some games. You could be an angel and invite your married friends' children to give them a night out! 

(4) GET TAKE OUT AND HIBERNATE | In the name of all things holy, don't go out to dinner alone. Settle for sushi for one, a bottle of wine, and a movie--something humorous. Whatever you do, don't watch The Notebook for gosh sake.

(5) DO YOUR TAXES  | While it would be nice to get a fat refund from Uncle Sam at the end of the night, I can't really endorse this suggestion. However, for those of you who are uber productive, this payoff might be a great alternative!

Of course, I want you on Flirt! Ring's Party Bus. We planned our launch on Valentine's Day because we know, oh, don't we know.... how sucky it is to be single on February 14. But not this year--we're throwing the ultimate Girls Nite: 50 single ladies with too many stories, champagne, chocolate, music, dancing, and our final destination...The Shout House for their LOVE STINKS, LET'S DRINK party. Plus, you get the best party favor ever...a sterling silver Flirt! Ring. I really hope you come. Click LAUNCH PARTY in the menu bar to reserve your spot. Valentine's Day ISN'T GOING TO SUCK this year!

If we don't see you, have a wonderful day! It's only 24 hours. And because it falls on Sunday, you could pretty much sleep through it. And that, my friends, is THE 6TH WAY to avoid Valentine's Day!